Narcissists all tend to say the same kinds things. These are their “catchphrases” that the develop to protect themselves and push their agenda. Overtime I have collected this list of common phrases the me and my clients have heard from narcissists in our lives.
- “Are you calling me a liar?”
- “Are you really a Christian?”
- “Believe what you want.”
- “Bullshit!”
- Calling you “the boy” or “the girl” when you are their child.
- “Can I just have a hug.”
- “Can’t we go back to being good.”
- “Do what you want.”
- “Do you ever think?”
- “Do you want a divorce?”
- “Do you want me to leave? Is that what you want?”
- “Don’t I deserve anything.”
- “Don’t be a child.”
- “Don’t give no shit and there won’t be no shit.”
- “Don’t listen to them.”
- “Don’t think you are better than me. You aren’t.”
- “Fine, throw me away.”
- “Get over it.”
- “Get your head in the game.”
- “Go ahead.”
- “Go to therapy.”
- “God will punish you.”
- “Here we go.”
- “Here you go again.”
- “I adore you.”
- “I always do the right thing..”
- “I always support my kids.”
- “I am a nice guy that you have a roof over your head.”
- “I am the expert at everything.”
- “I can have any bitch, believe that.”
- “I can’t believe you.”
- “I can’t change the past.”
- “I can’t win with you”
- “I didn’t do anything to you.”
- “I didn’t do anything wrong.”
- “I didn’t plan on it.”
- “I don’t care what you think.”
- “I don’t care.”
- “I don’t do crazy.”
- “I don’t even care.”
- “I don’t know anything about that.”
- “I don’t know what the future holds.”
- “I don’t need your stress.”
- “I don’t really care.”
- “I don’t remember saying that.”
- “I don’t remember that.”
- “I don’t want karma like that.”
- “I don’t want to be rude.”
- “I forgot to take my meds today.”
- “I just won’t say anything else to you today!”
- “I never acted like them as a kid.”
- “I never do anything right.”
- “I never mistreat you.”
- “I never said that.”
- “I only care about the people in this house.”
- “I promise.”
- “I swear to God.”
- “I want to share closeness with you.”
- “I want you to love yourself.”
- “I wish you would stop looking for negative things and start trying to find positive.”
- “I would never say something like that”
- “I’d never hurt you.”
- “I’ll explain everything later.”
- “I’m above the law.”
- “I’m always right”
- “I’m as sober as the Pope.”
- “I’m done talking.”
- “I’m going to show you better than I can tell you.”
- “I’m not changing.”
- “I’m not doing anything to you.”
- “I’m not feeling the love right now.”
- “I’m not going to argue with you.”
- “I’m not going to do X anymore.” (taking something away)
- “I’m not living in the past.”
- “I’m sick of being controlled.”
- “I’m sorry I’m so selfish.”
- “I’m sorry you feel that way.”
- “I’m telling you the truth now.” (When you ask them why they didn’t tell you the truth)
- “If only you had …”
- “If you don’t see how hard that I’m trying, then that’s on you.”
- “If you think I’m doing it, I’m going to do it.”
- “In any case.”
- “It can’t always be my fault.”
- “It didn’t happen.”
- “It doesn’t have to be this way.”
- “It is what it is.”
- “It’s all in your head.”
- “It’s always something with you.”
- “It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.”
- “It’s like nothing that I do is enough.”
- “It’s never your fault.”
- “It’s not what you know. It’s what you can prove.”
- “It’s only illegal if you get caught.”
- “Just Ask.”
- “Just leave me alone.”
- “K”
- “Keep acting like the victim.”
- “Keep acting like you do.”
- “Live to fight another day.”
- “Love conquers all.” (When asking for forgiveness)
- “Maybe my mom was right about you.”
- “Maybe you need to see a therapist.”
- “Meh.”
- “No I didn’t”
- “No one is ever going to love you like I do.”
- “No one will believe you.”
- “Nothing is ever your fault.”
- “Nothing was wrong with me.”
- “Oh, the things you create in that head of yours.”
- “Oh, so I’m always lying now.”
- “Oh, so you can do whatever you like?”
- “Prove it!”
- “Say what you want.”
- “Sit your ass down.”
- “So what’s the problem?”
- “Sounds like a personal problem.”
- “Step into my office.”
- “Stop berating me in front of our children.”
- “Stop berating me in front of our friends.”
- “Stop fishing for compliments.”
- “Stop listening to other people’s opinions about me.”
- “Stop remembering everything.”
- “Sucks to suck.”
- “Take your meds.”
- “That never happened.”
- “That was a long time ago.”
- “That’s just a perception.”
- “That’s not what happened.”
- “That’s what kind of man you are.”
- “That’s what kind of woman you are.”
- “There’s nothing to discuss.”
- “They are just jealous of us.”
- “Think what you want.”
- “This is insane!”
- “This is why I cant tell you nothing! And you wonder why I lie?”
- “Trust me.”
- “Try finding someone else who loves you as much as me.”
- “We are just friends.”
- “We were just hanging out.”
- “What are you going to do about it?”
- “What are you talking about?”
- “What do you mean?”
- “What do you not understand?”
- “What do you want me to do about it?”
- “What if I beat your ass though.”
- “Whatever.”
- “Why can’t you move on?”
- “Why do you always think I’m lying?”
- “Why do you listen to other people and not your husband.”
- “Why do you listen to other people and not your wife.”
- “Why you gotta bring up old shit?”
- “Yeah, keep telling yourself that!”
- “You always have to be the victim.”
- “You always make me feel like my feelings aren’t valid!”
- “You always make me out to be the bad guy.”
- “You always want me to be some piece of shit liar.”
- “You are irrational.”
- “You are overthinking it.”
- “You are sabotaging yourself.”
- “You are small minded.”
- “You can ruin a wet dream.”
- “You can’t get better sex than me.”
- “You can’t make me apologize.”
- “You change the story for your own benefit.”
- “You did it to yourself.”
- “You don’t know what you’re talking about”
- “You don’t know when to shut up.”
- “You don’t like me.”
- “You just keep going on and on.”
- “You just make things up in your head.”
- “You know nothing.”
- “You like to argue about not liking to argue.”
- “You made me do it.”
- “You made me do that.”
- “You need stronger medication.”
- “You should be grateful to me.”
- “You started it.”
- “You talk too much.”
- “You treat me like I’m property.”
- “You were trying to get a reaction out of me.”
- “You’re always putting me down!”
- “You’re always wrong.”
- “You’re calling the kettle black.”
- “You’re crazy!”
- “You’re hurting your own feelings.”
- “You’re just going to do it your way anyway.”
- “You’re just saying that because your tripping on drugs.”
- “You’re never satisfied.”
- “You’re no walk in the park.” (In response to criticism)
- “You’re not the victim in this!”
- “You’re so hateful.”
- “You’re too much.”
